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Updated: Sep 19, 2023

Navigating your career can be exciting and daunting. There are so many things to learn and so many decisions to make. Over my 20-year retail, franchise, restaurant, and marketing career, I learned many lessons about myself and what it takes to advance and develop a fulfilling career. I believe many of the lessons I learned can help you chart your path to your ideal job.


If you could go back and give your younger self some advice, what would it be? I started with this prompt and came up with these answers. I hope this reflection adds value to you as you look to achieve your professional goals.


man looking towards goals

Here are 10 things I wish I knew before I started my career:


Relocating would accelerate my career growth.

If you're willing to move to a new city or state, you'll have a much better chance of advancing your career. Most people want to stay where they live. Your willingness to relocate can be a differentiator within a competitive labor market.


In the first ten years of my career, I was promoted twice. In the second 10 years, I was promoted five times. One of the big differences was my willingness to relocate for growth opportunities.


Where you get a degree from is less important than having a degree.

While getting a college degree is still important, the specific school you attend doesn't matter as much as you might think. What matters more is your skills and experience.

I graduated from a small liberal arts college named Randolph-Macon College in Ashland, Virginia.


I had similar or more career growth than people who graduated from large and better-known universities. Big-name colleges can help with your personal branding and provide you with a larger alumni network, but there are other ways to build your personal brand, and a small, strong network is all most people need to achieve their professional goals.


Use leverage to guide decision-making.

When you're faced with a decision, think about the potential consequences of each option. What are the risks and rewards? How will your decision affect your career?


I became a more effective leader once I started making decisions based on return on time, money, and effort. All are limited resources; how you use them will determine your potential and options.


Scale your influence by empowering others.

One of the best ways to grow your career is to help others grow theirs. When you empower others, you create a ripple effect that can benefit you in the long run.


In the early days of my career, I believed that I needed to control everything. This made me the bottleneck in my team's potential. Only when I began to delegate tasks and extend more trust did I start to unlock the potential of my teams.


Praise more than you criticize.

We are conditioned from a young age to focus on what is wrong and to fix it. While this is vital for survival, criticizing small and insignificant details erodes morale, creates extra work, and causes unproductive stress.


One of the most effective programs I ever participated in was the SMILE program. It required managers to write a small note to employees whenever we noticed them do something that put a smile on a customer's face. We saw morale and productivity improvements by creating more moments where leadership praised employees.


"I don't know, but I will find out" is a great answer.

It's okay not to know everything. In fact, more harm is done by giving a bad answer than no answer at all. Being humble enough to state that you do not know something but diligent enough to go find the answer and report back will help you build creditability.


This is one of the first lessons my first district manager taught me when I started my career in retail. This lesson served me my entire career. People want more than the answer: they want the right answer.


Hire people for potential and build competency.

When you're hiring, look for people who have the potential to learn and grow. Teaching a smart and ambitious person a skill is easier than motivating a well-trained but complacent person.


I had a lot of success working with individuals that others had written off. I would identify what they were good at and position them to do work that aligned with their skills, interests, and aptitudes. Leadership matters: Sometimes, a different management approach can unlock an employee's potential.


Most decisions are made outside of meetings.

Every opportunity you have with someone is an opportunity to gain new information and influence. Constantly seek opportunities to expand your next, form relationships, and get to know the needs, expectations, and wants of the people you work with. By helping others accomplish their goals, you will increase your influence.


I gained more information and influence from informal discussions than any meeting I ever attended. The time you spend networking, building relationships, building alliances, and managing stakeholders will make the difference when pursuing a new role, a raise in salary, additional resources, or a special project.


Performance ratings are biased.

Don't put too much stock in your performance ratings. They're often subjective and based on factors that are beyond your control. Focus more on building your competency and a reputation that aligns with your strengths.


I earned my first big promotion in the same year that I missed budgeting earnings for my subgroup of stores. I was promoted because leadership recognized that my lack of hitting my numbers reflected more on the complexity of my assignment than on my skills, knowledge, or potential. Numbers matter, but good leadership looks beyond numbers to understand the story that numbers tell. Focus on building great stories.


There are tradeoffs to moving up the corporate ladder.

As you move up the corporate ladder, you will be asked to do things you have never done before. Some of these things will help you grow, and some will go against your values and damage your personal relationships.


To gain power, money, and influence, you will be asked to support decisions you will not agree with. This is a cost of being a mid-level leader within an organization. As you climb the ladder, you must determine what you will give up in exchange for all of the perks of being a senior leader.


Summary:

The last 20 years have taught me a lot about what it takes to get ahead within Corporate America. Working hard and being smart will only take you so far. You must have political acumen, strategy, strength of character, and a process from continuous learning. If you want to grow your career, I encourage you to invest time in building a clear picture of who you want to be, and what you want to do. This can help you stay motivated, centered, and focused on growing into the person you are meant to be.


I hope you have gained some value from reading the ten things I wish I had known before I started my career.


If you have read this far, I would love to hear from you on what you wish you knew before starting your career.


Sharing your comments could be of value to other professionals as they progress on their journey.


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Executive Coach Dorian Cunion

I am a father, husband, executive coach, and former retail executive. My coaching expertise comes from 21 years of leading operation, sales, and marketing teams. I understand what it is like to feel stuck, undervalued, and underappreciated.

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I also know what it takes to invest in professional development, climb the corporate ladder, and find fulfillment at work.

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Your career path is a scavenger hunt. Each opportunity prepares you for the next. Allow me the opportunity to help you clarify your path and accelerate your professional development.




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Workplace anxiety can affect anyone, especially managers who have to deal with multiple responsibilities, deadlines, and expectations. It can manifest as nervousness, worry, fear, or panic before or during important situations, such as interviews, presentations, meetings, or performance reviews. Workplace anxiety can impair productivity, performance, and well-being if left unchecked.


White Female Manager expressing anxiety.

During my professional career, anxiety has been a constant companion. It was there during my first interview, my first day of work, and at every major presentation, event, or difficult conversation I have ever since. In truth, anxiety has been a friend that has helped me to prepare for uncertainty and fuel to motivate me to be my best. But left unchecked, it has also been an anchor that has slowed me down and been a wall that has prevented me from doing my best work.


I practice multiple tactics to help me manage my anxiety. I exercise, journal, meditate, read, and talk with friends and family to help me keep things in perspective, burn off energy, and clarify my mind. While all of these tactics are effective, there are still times right before important events when my heart beats fast, my stomach gets tight, and I feel overwhelmed by the moment.


When this happens, one method I use to stop my brain from bouncing all over the place is to center myself using the 5 Senses Grounding Exercises. This is a simple exercise that you can do anywhere. By focusing on your current environment, you can pause your anxious thoughts, which is often enough to help you regain some calm and focus just before an important event.


5 Steps to reducing workplace anxiety:

  • Sight: Look around you and name five things you can see. Notice their colors, shapes, and details. For example, you can say, "I see a blue pen, a green plant, a white paper, a red mug, and a black laptop."

  • Touch: Feel your body and things around you and name four things you can touch. Notice their sensations, weights, and textures. For example, you can say, "I feel my feet on the floor, my hands on the desk, my clothes on my skin, my hair on my face, and my breath in my chest."

  • Hearing: Listen carefully and name four things you can hear. Notice their sounds, volumes, and rhythms. For example, you can say, "I hear a clock ticking, a keyboard typing, a phone ringing, a door closing, and a bird chirping."

  • Smell: Breathe deeply and name two things you can smell. Notice their scents, intensities, and qualities. For example, you can say, "I smell coffee, perfume, soap, flowers, and mint."

  • Taste: Take a sip of water or a bite of food and name one thing you can taste. Notice their flavors, textures, and temperatures. For example, you can say, "I taste water, salt, sugar, lemon, and bread."


These exercises allow you to shift your attention away from your anxiety and onto your sensory experience. This can help you relax your muscles, lower your heart rate and blood pressure, and reduce your stress hormones. You can also gain more clarity and confidence to face the challenges ahead.


For maximum results, practice this skill before you need it. I recommend pausing at least once a day for the next 7 days to do this exercise. The more you rehearse this practice, the better you will get at it, and the more effective it will be in bringing you to the present moment, allowing you to take back control of your emotions. Managing your emotions is an important skill that will help you to be the best version of yourself.


To summarize:


  • Workplace anxiety is common among managers and can affect your work performance and well-being.

  • 5 senses grounding exercises are simple techniques that help you focus on the present moment and calm your mind and body.

  • They involve using your sight, hearing, smell, taste and touch to anchor yourself in the here and now.

  • You can do these exercises before a stressful event at work to reduce your anxiety and help you to be calm and focused

  • Practice this skill to improve your effectiveness, grounding, and centering yourself.


If you are struggling with workplace anxiety and need more support or guidance, reach out to Your Path Coaching and Consulting. We specialize in helping managers overcome their anxiety and achieve their career goals. We offer personalized coaching sessions to help you develop effective coping skills, build confidence,

and enhance your performance.


Contact us today for a free consultation!


 

Thank you for reading this blog


Dorian Cunion is an Executive Coach and Business Consultant with Your Path Coaching and Consulting. He is a former retail executive with over 20 years of experience in the retail industry. He is a Co-Active coach who focuses on helping professionals and small business owners overcome insecurities, knowledge gaps, and lack of direction. He does this by assisting clients to tap into their values, recognize their strengths, and develop actionable strategies for growth.


Have you been trying to improve your career or business on your own but are not seeing success as fast as you desire?

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Your company just went through a layoff. The good news is that you were not let go. The bad news is that you are now concerned about your company's financial health. You also know that things will get more difficult in the near term. The work that was previously done by others will be reassigned. You will be asked to do more, and there is little chance of you getting incremental compensation despite the extra effort.


newspaper clipping around layoffs and uncertainty

You are asking yourself, do I want to stay here? Part of you wants to be loyal to your company and peers, put your head down, and help to turn things around. Another part of you is scared if you will be next and wonders if this is the perfect time to seek employment elsewhere

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Things to consider before leaving your company after a layoff

1. Do you enjoy your job?

This is the most critical factor to consider because if you don't like what you do, you will not perform at a high level. Think about what aspects of your job make you happy and what aspects make you frustrated or bored. If the positives outweigh the negatives, you might want to stay and see how things evolve. You might want to seek something more fulfilling if the negatives are too overwhelming.


2. Do you believe the company can turn things around?

Layoffs are usually a sign of financial trouble, but they can also be a strategic move to restructure and improve the company's performance. If you trust the leadership and vision of the company, and you see signs of recovery and growth, you might want to stick around and be part of the solution. If you doubt the company's future and direction and you see no evidence of improvement or innovation, you might want to jump ship before it sinks.


3. Will you have the potential to grow by staying?

Layoffs can create new opportunities for those who remain, such as taking on more responsibilities, learning new skills, or moving up the ladder. If you see a clear career development and advancement path within the company, you might want to stay and seize those opportunities. If you feel stuck or stagnant in your current role and have no prospects for growth or change, you might want to look for other options that can challenge and reward you.


Things to do after a layoff at your company

1. Journal about your feelings.

Writing down your thoughts and emotions can help you process what happened and cope with the change. It can also help you identify what you liked and disliked about your job, what you are learning, and what you want to avoid in the future. Journaling can also boost your self-esteem and confidence by reminding you of your strengths and achievements.


2. Define what you want from your career.

After your company lays off workers, you may feel tempted to accept job offers from other companies, but this may not be the best option for your long-term satisfaction and growth. Take some time to think about what you want from your career, such as the type of work, the industry, the culture, the values, the benefits, and the salary. Create a list of the top 10 things that are important to you, and evaluate how your current role is fulfilling your needs.


3. Define career options.

Once you have a clear idea of what you want from your career, you can start researching and evaluating different career options that match your criteria. You can use online resources such as job boards, company websites, industry blogs, or professional networks to learn more about the current trends, opportunities, and challenges in various fields. You can also contact people who work in careers that interest you and ask them for advice or feedback. This can help you determine if you would be better off staying or pursuing employment elsewhere.


Summary

Deciding whether to leave an organization after a layoff is a difficult decision. You have to evaluate your values, options, and long-term career plans. By taking time to explore your feelings about your

  • company

  • current job

and the knowledge you have of

  • the economy

  • your industry

  • your long-term career goals

you can find the right answer to whether you should stay or leave. Every decision allows you to learn more about who you are and the world around you. If you stay centered on your values, use your strengths, and pursue your long-term goals, you will end up exactly where you are meant to be.



 

Thank you for reading this blog

Executive Coach Dorian Cunion

Dorian Cunion is an Executive Coach and Business Consultant with Your Path Coaching and Consulting. He is a former retail executive with over 20 years of experience in the retail industry. He is a Co-Active coach who focuses on helping professionals, and small business owners overcome insecurities, knowledge gaps, and lack of direction. He does this by assisting clients to tap into their values, recognize their strengths, and develop actionable strategies for growth.


Have you been trying to improve your career or business on your own but are not seeing success as fast as you desire?

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